Hey Gay Boy

Hey Gay Boy

Why You Want Commitment and Resist It at the Same Time

Understanding the approach–avoidance conflict in modern gay dating

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James Wallis
Feb 20, 2026
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If commitment feels confusing, it’s not because you don’t know what you want.

Most gay men do.

They want closeness.
Stability.
Someone to build with.

What feels confusing is that the closer commitment get…

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